By Obiajulu Chiagoziem
American actress Gabrielle Union has revealed that her soul was ‘shattered’ when she learned that her now-husband Dwyane Wade got another woman pregnant while she was struggling to conceive.
The Bring It on Star in her book You Got Something Stronger?, shares a raw and detailed account of the betrayal, which Time published an excerpt of on Friday.
In the book, she poured out her emotions on realising that her to be husband went on to have a child while they were on a break in their relationship.
In 2014, before the couple tied the nuptial knot, Gabrielle found out that Dwyane had in 2013 fathered a child with Basketball Wives star, Aja Metoyer. However, they went on seal the union.
Gabrielle, 48, explained that she and Dwayne were trying to have a baby of their own at the time and she was going through IVF treatments and struggling to conceive.
Discussing how she felt when she got the news, she said: “To say I was devastated is to pick a word on a low shelf for convenience.
“I have not had words, and even after untold amounts of therapy I am not sure I have them now. But truth matters.”
“The experience of Dwyane having a baby so easily while I was unable to left my soul not just broken into pieces, but shattered into fine dust scattering in the wind,” she recalled.
“We gathered what we could to slowly remake me into something new. There was no way to disguise where I’d been glued back together.”
She stated that she remembered thinking “This woman is such a failure. And she has the nerve to be old. And she has the nerve to have a younger husband. And she has the nerve to stick with a guy who had a kid with somebody else.”
“So much of what made the decision so difficult was that if I didn’t submit to a surrogacy, then I was convinced I needed to let Dwyane go,” she wrote.
“Even if he didn’t want to, I had to let him find someone who could give him what he wanted. But I loved him.”
She continued, “Each day, he had worked to be forgiven, and I had chosen to love him and forgive him. And part of this journey of making peace with our love is also making peace with ourselves.”
“He wouldn’t have become the man he desperately wanted to be, and I would not become the woman I dreamed of being.”
The Basketball star, Dwayne had previously admitted that telling Gabrielle about Xavier was the ‘hardest thing’ he’s ‘ever had to do.’
“I had a child with someone else and I had to tell her. Hardest thing I’ve ever had to do is man up and tell Gabrielle Union that I’ve had a child with somebody else,’ he said in his documentary D. Wade: Life Unexpected. “I couldn’t sleep. I wasn’t eating.”
“When you hold something in that you know is going to come out and you have this information and you know it’s gonna f**k somebody’s life up, that you care about, that you love, if it don’t hurt you, then you’re not human,’ Wade continued. ‘… Me and Gab just went through something that you never want to go through and we still came out of it.”
Gabrielle finally went on to have daughter, Kaavia, with Dwyane through surrogacy.
Dwayne is also father to Zaire, 19, Zaya, 14, and is the legal guardian to his nephew Dahveon Morris, 20, whom he adopted in 2011.